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A Little Book of Love

I mentioned previously that I am part of my church's mums and bumps group.  Recently we were all involved in this little project to make a small book for expectant mums in the church, having now moved from being pregnant to motherhood.  I'm still relatively new to this adventure, so I can't really give much advice but based on this short ride of mine, I answered the questions you see below.  Each of us submitted a pic of mum and baby to be included with the interview.  I do look forward to seeing the final product.  What a great idea!





Questions:

1. Motherhood transforms. Can you explain a bit what where the biggest changes for you as a person, changes in how you see yourself and the world.  
Motherhood for the first time throws you into a whole new world that you never once knew.  You will be sleep deprived and there will be good and bad days.  I’ve learnt how to multi task more than before.  At the same time I’m also learning to let go of what is less important such as keeping the household in order - an empty laundry basket, a clean kitchen worktop, a tidy room, etc.  You learn to prioritise and everyday you learn more and more about your baby which makes the journey easier, although I’m learning this ease in journey is not a linear graph!

2. Motherhood connects. How do you feel your relationship with God changed or evolved after becoming a mother. What did motherhood taught you about God’s love?  It allowed me to ponder about God’s love for me all over again.  God sent His only Son to die for us - wow.  As a mum now, and looking at my little one, you see it from another perspective and see another glimpse of how great God’s love for us is.

3. Motherhood challenges. Which where/are your biggest challenges as a mum?  The first obvious for all new parents: the lack of sleep!  And trying to figure out what baby’s cries mean!  In these 8 weeks of being a new mom, I’ve also learnt that you need to trust God even more; probably more than when we were trusting God for a baby.  Previously we were praying and trusting God for a baby and in my naive thinking, I thought once the baby arrives, we celebrate, there is all round happiness and it stops there.  But truth is, I have learnt that I need to trust God even more.  This is a little precious life which He has entrusted us and being jittery new parents, we have got to continue to pray and trust that He gives us daily wisdom and grace - how to care for this little munchkin (who cries a lot btw).  When Isabelle had a temperature after her vaccinations, very naturally we worried and fussed over her, taking her temperature repeatedly that night.  I knew I had to trust God that she is ok and He is her healer.

4. Motherhood love. Did becoming a mother changed the way you perceive and experience love not only towards you baby but also towards others? Feel free to give an example of a old relationship that benefited from this new love.  
Having to care for a little one makes you empathises with other children who are in need.  It gave me new eyes towards my sponsor child from Compassion.  

5. Motherhood gives. Becoming a mum makes us vulnerable and aware of other’s needs. It also makes us strong and compassionate to help others. Which advices would you give to new mothers to be?  Advice for new moms - I’m still learning in this area but I would say don’t be too hard on yourself.  You have gone through a lot from your 9 month pregnancy to the labour, to get to where you are today.  Be kind to yourself.  Be proud of what you have achieved and take each day as it comes.  I’ve learnt to count my small wins each day.  Small things like being able to have the time to reply to email(s), getting to the post office to send that parcel you have been meaning to.. or even baby crying less compared to yesterday which is a big win.


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